Bercedeh Stark
We are all, from time to time, faced with challenges, struggles and
adversity in our life – especially if we are faced with a move across
the ocean or into a new and foreign environment. It is all part of
the wondrous, joyful experience called life. Yet our reactions to
each bump in the road govern whether the bump sets us momentarily off
course or throws us completely off the road.
As much as we all like to believe that we face each experience having
learned the lessons from the experiences in our past, the truth is
that many of us have to repeat the same lessons over and over again
before we are truly able to graduate Life’s Lessons.
For many of us, our reactions are steeped in past issues: feelings of
anger, helplessness, or overwhelm. Whenever those feelings are
evoked, it is difficult for us to respond clearly and openly to a
current issue.
What I challenge you to master is to focus on the present whenever
you are faced with challenging situations. It is only in focusing on
the here and now that you will be able to respond authentically to
current challenges as you will be concentrating on the feelings you
are currently experiencing – rather than focusing on those of the
past. It can be extremely difficult to complete with the past but it
is also extremely empowering to finally put troubling issues to
rest.
Imagine being fully in charge of your life’s journey and directing
its course. Imagine freeing yourself from the belief that life has
to be this way and giving yourself permission to change what you do
not like. Imagine transforming the way you respond to each new
experience – positive and negative. If you believe that you are
capable of transition, then you will achieve it.
This is especially important for The Constant Transient. Whether I
successfully transition into a new environment depends greatly on my
belief system. My beliefs can serve me well to respond to a
situation, or they can hinder me and keep me locked in the past. If
I have the belief that my life was much better “back home,” I will
never adapt to my new surroundings, get along with new colleagues or
even enjoy my new career. If I believe that things were better in
the past, I will always be stuck in the past and will be blocked from
moving forward in my present life.
Here are some tips to help you move beyond the past and greet the
present with joy and enthusiasm:
Take Action: A question I often ask clients is: What do you do when
XYZ happens? More often than not, “I just ignore it” is the answer.
Ignoring your current circumstances means that you are practicing
tolerance for a situation which does not feel right to you. If we
swallow whatever we do not like, we are not empowered to take action
and change our situation for the better. We will continue to go
through life unhappily.
Shift Your Perception: When we manage to shift our outlook
from “everything was better in the past” to committing to doing our
best to understand and learn what we need to succeed in our lives in
the here and now, we then give ourselves room for action and positive
response. Suddenly, situations that seemed insurmountable are a
smorgasbord of endless choices and opportunities.
Remember: we all have within us the power to transform any negative
situation into an experience of positive growth. By shifting our
perception and learning to take action, we can truly empower our
lives to the fullest and experience boundless joy and abundance.
By incorporating the above tips into your moving strategy, you will
help all members of your family complete issues in the past and feel
that they have choices and are in control of the circumstances
surrounding their move.
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) 2006 Bercedeh Stark
Bercedeh Stark Arasteh is a personal coach and seminar leader working
with clients who want reach their full potential while living in new
or unfamiliar surroundings. Please visit her online at
http://www.bercedehstark.com to register for her inspiring monthly
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