By D R Chamberlain
070406
In a different vein than my usual postings… but thought I’d share it nevertheless… DRC
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This saying is so true: The more the things change, the more they remain the same.
Now, it has been almost 30 years since I first entered HS, which to the uninformed is the equivalent of making the varsity team (or being forced onto the varsity team) of girl games. I won’t waste time or space here listing all of the games that are played, I think anyone reading this can recall at least one version of a game on their own.
Many things have changed since I was in HS, the addition of PCs, cell phones, and that new math that they teach! But, sadly, one thing has not changed, the mean, hurtful, spiteful, backstabbing, while smiling in your face professing to be your friend (sister), games that girls often play on one another. Even more sadly, many girls grow into women still playing these very same games, it is no wonder that in HS most of my friends were guys and even today I prefer to have men friends rather than the false, two-faced friendship that a lot of women offer.
Refusing to play the game(s) does not stop it from happening to you; I have yet to met a girl/woman who has not been the victim of another girl/woman at one time or another.
When will girls/women stop lying to themselves and others in order to accept no blame for the hurt, pain, and feelings of betrayal that
they cause when they play these games?
When will girls/women learn that other females are not the enemy? That boys/men are not a prize to be won or taken from another
girl/woman?
When will girls/women learn to support one another instead of being in constant competition with one another? Men only truly compete with other men; women are in competition with both other women and men.
When will girls/women be strong enough, self confident enough, to go to a party alone and not with the intention of having to hook up with someone once they get there, but only with the intention of enjoying time with friends and if you’re lucky enough, making some new friends?
When will girls/women learn that sex is not a weapon or tool to use; nor is it a last resort in keeping a boyfriend or even getting a
boyfriend in the first place. When will girls/women value themselves and their sexuality? So many girls in HS these days think that "friends with benefits" is a good thing, and that giving head is just a way to keep their boyfriend.
Why are girls/women so surprised that they only attract boys/men that play games, boys/men that hurt them, use them and/or betray them, when they themselves do that to others on a constant basis?
When will girls/women learn that in order to have the boyfriend/mate that they so desire that they must first love themselves? That they
must respect themselves? That it’s okay to be without a man in your life. That they will not get the person they so desire until they learn these things and live this?
When will girls/women learn to love their bodies? That, like the beautiful flowers that are upon the earth, we as human beings come in all shapes, forms, and colors, and all are beautiful?
When will girls/women learn to give up or grow out of the archetypal patterns of victim and princess? When will they learn to speak
directly, honestly, and with compassion? When will girls/women, dare I say, act honorably towards other girls/women?
It has been many years since the feminist revolution came to America, and until women start supporting other women the revolution will never truly take root and bloom.
I have raised both a son and a daughter, and I am immensely proud of the caring human beings that they are. But from my experience in raising them, I have found that it is still much easier to be a male in this country than a female, and in my opinion it is solely because
of the fact that instead of empowering themselves girls still play games and are in competition with other females. I, for one, find this heart breaking.
Copywrite 2006 DRChamberlain
